• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Eliana the Writer

  • About
    • Contact
  • Published Works
    • Portfolio
  • Newsletter
  • More Fun
  • Navigation Menu: Social Icons

    • Email
    • Facebook
    • Instagram
    • LinkedIn

How to Do a Big Project in a Big Family Part 3 – The Shovel & Dark Vader of the Kitchen

April 1, 2019 by Eliana 3 Comments


See the introduction and other posts if you haven’t!)

People need motivation. And if you are one of those people who offer your kids/siblings candy (or money) every time they do something, no offense, but eventually you’ll run out of candy and your kids/siblings’ll have cavities.
 
My solution is to instead offer them power. Sugar-free.
 
When all the kids go outside to battle the weeds, they tend to get lazy. Fast. The sun beating down. The lack of prospect of victory against everlasting weeds. You get the idea.
I noticed this problem and another as well. I saw that it was very inefficient for everyone to have to get up regularly to put their weeds in the green waste. So I appointed someone (the first to come outside for weeding) to carry a shovel around and collect people’s weeds for them. A very easy job. Consequently, everyone wanted it.
So the shovel got passed to someone new every five minutes. But not just anyone. The person who — in the shovel carrier’s opinion — weeded the hardest or the most. Now, not only were they weeding to get the easy job, but also for the power of choosing the next person.
 
This solution:
– encourages people to come outside for weeding fast, because the first to come out got the first turn with the shovel
– added a helpful position where somebody collects what has been weeded
– compelled people to weed more
 
The kids wanted the shovel both:
– to have an easy job
– and for the power to choose the next shovel person
I use the same strategy when we clean the kitchen and pick up after dinner.
If a few siblings choose to join something called the “Darth Vader system,” they will take turns being “Darth Vader” each evening. “Darth Vader” gets to choose who in the “Darth Vader system” gets what job.
People join the system for the power of being Vader every once and a while and then put themselves subject to the other Vaders’ authority. Since Darth Vader’s job is to make sure the people of the system work efficiently, this strategy works pretty well.
 
The Darth Vader is in charge of dividing the work, and, especially with complicated tasks, “divide and conquer” is a big deal. More on dividing work next time.

Share this:

  • Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook
  • Share on X (Opens in new window) X

Like this:

Like Loading…

Filed Under: Bible, Daniel, encouragement, faith, family, gratitude, Old Testament, personality, practical, purpose, social loafing, summer, thankfulness, working together

Previous Post: « How to Do a Big Project in a Big Family Part 2 – House Bingo
Next Post: How to Do a Big Project in a Big Family Part 4 – Bathing the littles »

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. adaneth

    April 6, 2019 at 9:21 am

    These are some great ideas! Does whoever takes the role of Darth Vader try to imitate the sound of his voice when they give orders?

    Reply
  2. adaneth

    April 6, 2019 at 9:23 am

    By the way, "adaneth" is your aunt in Minnesota. The website forced me to create a profile and pick a name instead of using the Google default, which is annoying. Just so you're not confused! =)

    Reply
  3. Eliana

    April 6, 2019 at 1:12 pm

    🙂 Yeah, they probably did at first, but now they are talking normally. Talking like Darth Vader is hard on the lungs!

    Reply

Leave a ReplyCancel reply

Primary Sidebar

The Writer

Hi! Welcome to my blog! My name is Eliana Duran, and I’m super excited to write and see where it goes.

See more about me →

Newest stuff

  • 21-Year-Old Girl Tries to Figure out God
  • 5 Surprises at My New Crossway Job
  • The Tale of Three Former Conspiracy Theorists
  • Hope in the Midst of Senioritis
  • Notes from Cross Con 2026 and an Unexpected Interview

Copyright © 2026 Eliana the Writer

%d